Sometimes Being Responsible is Overrated

We’re all so damn responsible, you know? Work, kids, volunteering, chores, yard work, taxes, home repairs, car maintenance. Sometimes it feels like the shit never ends.

And it doesn’t. Until you die.

In the immortal words of Prince, “We are gathered here today, to get through this thing called life.”

Life. It’s not just about slogging through the day-to-day drudgery of adulting. Life is about living and sometimes that means being irresponsible once in awhile. Because Prince also advises us to, “Let’s go crazy!”

For Jenny and I, that sometimes means blowing off work and being wild for a day. Our version of wild and your version of wild are probably different, and that’s cool. For us, we might go boating with the wind and spray in our faces. It might mean we go into the city and do something new and different. Maybe we’ll try new foods or cocktails and stay up way too late. Sometimes it means we’ll stay home, roll a fattie, laugh our asses off while watching a comedy, and then have amazing sex.

Whatever helps you get through life, man, embrace it. Give up adulting for a day. Remember the good things in life. Go crazy. No one on their deathbed every wished they’d worked harder and never taken a break.

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7 Ways to Make Time for Your Partner & Strengthen Your Relationship

If your best friends blew into town, you’d make time for him or her, right? How about a cousin or other family member? And if you have children you always make time for them, right?

What about your spouse or significant other? Do you make time for them?

It’s important that you do. When the kids are grown and friends move away, who is left? Your partner. It’s a relationship that you need to nurture for the duration. Just being married or saying you’re in a committed relationship isn’t enough. Being “together” is hard work.

If you think you’d make time for friends or other relatives then you need to do the same for that special someone in your life.

  1. Make time to talk and catch up. Share what’s going on at work, with the kids, with your extended families. And don’t forget to really TALK. Not just about the day-to-day stuff. Talk about your hopes and dreams and your thoughts on the future. The deep stuff is the good stuff!
  2. Cook meals together. Helping each other in the kitchen is a good time to bond and it gives you the chance to try new foods that you both might like. Perhaps take turns choosing what the main course or sides might be.
  3. Do the household chores together. No one wants to be the household grunt. Cut the workload in half to get things done quicker, then you’ll have more time for fun.
  4. Take a drive. Relax, roll down the windows, put on your favorite music, cruise for a bit and spend some time talking and holding hands. Remember when you were younger and went on dates? Getting there and back was part of the journey.
  5. Text. Send each texts during the day, and not just about the daily mundane stuff like bills and who is driving carpool. Flirt! We do Sexy Text Tuesday memes for you to screenshot and text. Use ‘em! Here’s one. And another.
  6. If you have children, do the kid routine together. Homework, carpool, bath time, bedtime. Get it all done together (more quickly!) then you’ll have more you time. Also, when you both spend time with the kiddos, it gives you something more to talk about. You can’t really discuss the funny things your kids do and say if you both weren’t there to see it.
  7. Make time for sex. Don’t just flop into bed each night, exhausted. Plan for it if you have to! Start by flirting via text, make dinner and do chores together so that no one partner is “too tired” for sex. {TIP: One partner will grow resentful if they are doing all the work and then you can kiss the sex goodbye!}

Taking time for each other will make your relationship stronger!

Any advice that you would add to the list?


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Our Revolutionary Soldiers Were Badass

I did some sightseeing today. Specifically, I was at a Revolutionary War Museum. I was struck with how badass our early founders were. The soldiers who fought in the Revolutionary War were volunteers, and they fought for seven years. No pay. No guarantee of food or water. No promise of a better life. No warm clothes in winter. No warm place to sleep. But they did it. They had beliefs and they had a drive to be free. I often wonder if our country could pull it off today. Would volunteers fight for our country again?

I wonder, but I hope we never have to find out.

Peace! And freedom!

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Stand for What is Right


I have this poster hanging in my office and it’s a motto that I genuinely try to live by. There are a number of times when I’ve had to be the obnoxious loudmouth who spoke up and stuck my nose in — my children’s schools, county meetings, out in public, school board, with other parents or friends. When things aren’t RIGHT, they just aren’t right.

So I have a really hard time understanding why NO ONE stood up on that United Airlines plane to defend the man who was forcibly being removed from flight 3411? WHY? Was getting a viral video more important? Was Tweeting the right thing to do? Have hashtags and @ mentions replaced human decency?

I honestly can’t decide which is more distasteful to me: the treatment of that individual passenger, or the remaining passengers who did nothing but rolled video instead.

I’m reminded of a John Mellencamp song lyric, “You’ve got to stand for something, or you’re gonna fall for anything.” And I believe that. There are too many people standing on the sidelines not wanting to get involved. Which reminds me of another saying,”If not you, then who?” and Another, “If you see something, say something.”

Have we, as a society, gone completely overboard with citizen journalism at all costs? I certainly hope not, because there are many great tragedies which stem from people not doing anything to help others. I know the Holocaust is an extreme example but the words in this poem, about the cowardice of German intellectuals who allowed the purging of different races, ring true in times like these:

First they came …
By German pastor Martin Niemöller (1892–1984).

First they came for the Socialists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Socialist.

Then they came for the Trade Unionists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Trade Unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.


P.S. If you’re not sure what I’m referring to, here’s a link to the incident and Tweets from bystanders.


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My Snoggler

I’m outing Jenny. She’s what I call a “snoggler.” If you’re married or live with someone, you might already know what it means to snoggle.

Snoggle (verb) – to hog the bed under the guise of snuggling.

Snoggler (noun) – one who snoggles.

Jenny likes to sleep on her left side but scoots her shapely ass as far as she can toward the center of the bed, most often encroaching on my half of the bed. Or, she’ll drape her arms and legs over me on me while resting her head on my pillow. She says she’s cuddling but I’m on to her. She’s staking out additional real estate. Thank God I love her. And really who couldn’t use a good snoggle from time to time?!

Is there a snoggler in your bed? Tell us about it.

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